Little Lessons

Your Choices, Your Values

Posted by Mark Fallon

Sep 27, 2019 5:01:00 AM

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“"Happy, contented people make conscious, careful choices about their life focuses that endorse their individual values." – Gail McMeekin

I believe in goals. Over 25% of the posts on this blog have had something to say about goals. Having an objective helps provide direction and purpose. Of course, we need to make sure we have the right objectives.

Hard work is an important part of our lives. Sometimes the effort is a combination of physical, mental and emotional. We can’t expect accomplishments without labor and sweat. But we also need rest to allow our bodies and spirits to recover.

Success – reaching our goals through hard work and determination – is a great sensation. Knowing that we’ve achieved what we set out to do, that we’ve overcome the obstacles and challenges before us. Winning feels better than losing. However, the obsession to succeed can blind us from what’s really important.

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Topics: success, hard work, goals, reflection, values, honesty, challenge, happiness, little lessons, wins, balance

Fast Pace/Slow Pace

Posted by Mark Fallon

Sep 13, 2019 5:01:00 AM

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“The world is full of magic things, patiently waiting for our senses to grow sharper.” – W.B. Yeats

It was a perfect September day. Warm sun on our shoulders, with a slight breeze cooling our faces. We sat on a bench enjoying an ice cream, a defiant act to the calendar’s declaration that summer was over.

At first glance, the meadow just looked like an overgrown field. The longer we sat, we could see the butterflies roaming from one plant to another, performing the pollinating ballet. Following their flight, we could see the multitudes of distinct colors of the flowers – purples, yellows, browns and so many shades of green.

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Topics: reflection, inspiration, little lessons, time, social media, beauty, nature, perspective

Yesterday, Today and Tomorrow

Posted by Mark Fallon

Aug 23, 2019 5:01:00 AM

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“Someone is sitting in the shade today because someone planted a tree a long time ago.” – Warren Buffett

“The true meaning of life is to plant trees, under whose shade you do not expect to sit.” – Nelson Henderson

Lately, I’ve been thinking about my parents. A lot.

It started with finding a stack of letters my mother had saved. They were letters I’d sent to my parents when I was in the military.

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Topics: reflection, family, memories, reactions, mother, story, listen, little lessons, father, future, mail, letters, parents

The Value of Time

Posted by Mark Fallon

Jul 12, 2019 5:01:00 AM

 

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“A free man possesses time.” – Erling Kagge

Alarm clocks. Time clocks. Clocks on our wrists. Clocks on our phones.

Paper calendars. Electronic calendars. Internet-enabled calendars.

Factory whistles. School bells. Meeting notifications.

Constant reminders of the many ways time is passing by – by the minute, by the hour, by the day. We’ve developed many different ways to measure the passage of time. It’s just as important that we recognize the value of time.

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Topics: reflection, thoughtfulness, moment, little lessons, time, rest, social media

Dining Alone

Posted by Mark Fallon

Jun 14, 2019 4:38:43 AM

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"All man's miseries derive from not being able to sit quietly in a room alone." – Blaise Pascal

Because of my job as a consultant, I spend a significant amount of time away from home. Business travel isn’t glamorous, it isn’t miserable, it’s just part of my job. I’ve been a landscaper, a trash collector, a waiter and a soldier. Put into the proper perspective, life on the road isn’t that bad.

I’m fortunate and have wonderful clients. We’ve shared dinners that are more like a gathering of friends than a corporate event. Exchanging stories, including some “tall tales”, that bring smiles and laughter to the table. We create memories, not close business deals.

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Topics: reflection, Reading and Books, memories, travel, story, people, little lessons, emotions

The Never-Ending Search

Posted by Mark Fallon

Jun 7, 2019 5:00:52 AM

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“For the meaning of life differs from man to man, from day to day and hour to hour.” – Viktor Frankl

As I was reading Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning, one thought kept crossing my mind – “How have I never read this book before?”

In college, my major was history, with a minor in philosophy. Additionally, my literature courses included books by twentieth-century existentialists like Camus and Sartre. I was assigned to read Freud’s The Future of an Illusion as part of my capstone course in philosophy. But Frankl? I’m not sure he was even mentioned.

A friend told me he had recently re-read Frankl, as part of a discussion about what makes us human. His passion when describing the book was intriguing. A visit to a university bookstore prompted me to look for Frankl’s works. When my search in the philosophy section turned up nothing, I remembered that my friend is a psychologist. Moving over a few sections, my hunt was successful.

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Topics: reflection, Reading and Books, inspiration, love, attitude, reactions, little lessons

The Joke I Didn’t Post

Posted by Mark Fallon

Dec 28, 2018 5:01:00 AM

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“A gentleman is one who never hurts anyone's feelings unintentionally.” - Oscar Wilde

My social media feed was filled with posts on a contentious subject. Both sides of the political spectrum were accusing the other of not taking them seriously. People had created memes using cool graphics and witty wording.

Posts built upon posts, until all the arguments looked silly. I started to do my own research on the subject. Thanks to the power of the internet, I was able to reach back decades, and then centuries. The more I learned, the sillier the current situation seemed.

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Topics: reflection, reactions, positive, people, little lessons, social media

Diets for Our Minds

Posted by Mark Fallon

Dec 21, 2018 5:01:00 AM

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“People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing – that's why we recommend it daily!” – Zig Ziglar

I recently listened to a podcast interview with Ta-Nehisi Coates, the journalist and author. During the interview, Mr. Coates talked about his decision to shut down his Twitter account and leave that social media platform. The constant barrage of negativity was impacting his writing. He explained, “If I don’t exert control over what comes in, I will in no way be able to exert control over what comes out.”

That’s a key point – what we absorb impacts what we generate. The internet and social media have helped further democratize the distribution of information. More people are able to express their views to more people than ever before. However, that means a long with the good, there’s a lot of bad.

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Topics: reflection, positive, thoughtfulness, little lessons, good, social media

Choosing the Right Goal – And It May Change

Posted by Mark Fallon

Dec 7, 2018 5:01:00 AM

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"When your intention is clear, so is the way." – Alan Cohen

A few weeks ago, I was driving from Brooklyn, New York to my home in Massachusetts. The trip normally takes around 3 ½ to 4 hours. I was starting at 2:00pm, well before rush hour. There was snow in the forecast, so I planned on a 5-hour trip, getting home around 7:00pm.

The snow started before I left the parking lot. The highway was already backed up, and my GPS recommended that I go through Manhattan. I was familiar with the route along the Hudson River, and while it may add a few miles, it probably would be quicker.

And it was. For about 30 minutes. Then everything stopped.

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Topics: goals, reflection, challenge

We All Need a Break

Posted by Mark Fallon

Aug 31, 2018 5:01:00 AM


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“He that can take rest is greater than he that can take cities.” – Benjamin Franklin

One of my favorite memories from childhood is the time we spent at Hampton Beach each summer. My father’s cousin let us use their house for one week each August. A house on Ocean Boulevard – directly across the street from the beach.

Our days would revolve around the tides. Low tides meant running for what seemed like miles to get to the water. As the tide rolled in, we’d retreat and retreat, eventually abandoning the beach to watch the waves crash against the wall from the safety of the sidewalk.

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Topics: strength, reflection, challenge, rest, vacation