Little Lessons

Being the Essential You

Posted by Mark Fallon

Mar 27, 2020 4:45:00 AM


“We have to go into the despair and go beyond it, by working and doing for somebody else, by using it for something else.” – Elie Wiesel

I love language. When reading a book, I’m always fascinated by the way great authors assemble words to form powerful messages. Like master chefs, writers take the basic ingredients – the words available to all of us – and deliver marvelous creations.

A word that has been in use a lot lately is “essential”. Only essential businesses are allowed to remain open. Only essential travel is permitted. Only essential employees should report to work.

Is your business essential? Is the trip you make to the store essential?

Are you essential?

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Topics: networking, personal relationships, fear, challenge, little lessons, kindness, letters, social media, empathy, nature, balance

Finding the Positive

Posted by Mark Fallon

Oct 18, 2019 5:01:00 AM

Bentley Class of 1948 daytime
“You cannot get through a single day without having an impact on the world around you. What you do makes a difference, and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make.” – Jane Goodall

Back in February, I wrote a blog post about my mother entitled, Take Heed of the Quiet Rebel. It was my annual tribute to my first teacher of life’s little lessons. I included stories of her accomplishments, including getting a college degree in 1948. The example of her life remains a guidepost for how I live my own.

A few weeks ago, I received a comment from Liz Baccala on the post. It was the sort of connection only possible in the age of the internet:

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Topics: networking, memories, mother, little lessons, help, social media, parents

Mind over Matter

Posted by Mark Fallon

Jun 21, 2019 5:01:00 AM

“Give me a place to stand on and I can move the Earth.” – Archimedes

Once upon a time, I was young and strong.

Throughout high school, and part of college, I worked summers as a landscaper. My boss loved to give me the hardest jobs, because he knew I wanted to be challenged. Dig a hole 6 feet by six feet by six feet – with only a shovel and pickax. Move truckloads of wood mulch with a wheelbarrow. Rip out a tree stump without any power tools.

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Topics: strength, improvement, networking, hard work, reading list, Reading and Books, growth, groups, challenge, little lessons

Why Can’t We Be Friends?

Posted by Mark Fallon

May 10, 2019 5:01:00 AM

Benjie Angel

“Smile at strangers and you just might change a life.” – Steve Maraboli

Growing up, we always had pets. For about 15 years, 2 cats ruled the house – Kizmee (a Siamese) owned the upstairs, while Sandy (a money cat who walked up to our house and moved in) was the queen of the downstairs. With her double paws, Sandy also governed the front yard.

Our dogs knew that they were the subservient species. Even Benjie, a large shepherd-collie mutt, received early training as a puppy from the cats about his role in the house. After receiving a few swats, he knew that whenever a cat entered a room, he got out of their way.

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Topics: networking, friendship, personal relationships, love, people, little lessons, expectations, trust, compassion

The Stories of Strangers

Posted by Mark Fallon

Apr 28, 2017 5:06:00 AM

"I never met a man I didn’t like.” – Will Rogers

burger dinner.jpgTraveling for business means eating at a lot of restaurants; usually alone. I look for a seat at the counter in diners, or a seat at the bar in restaurants if they aren’t too noisy. Most times, I’m seated at a table for two. I use the extra space for whatever book I’m reading.

Just because I’m alone, doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy some good conversations. In fact, many of my blogs are inspired by what I learn while eating. And listening.

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Topics: networking, communicate, fear

Getting Your Message Across

Posted by Mark Fallon

Nov 13, 2015 5:30:00 AM

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Topics: networking, communicate

The Company You Keep

Posted by Mark Fallon

Jul 17, 2013 11:05:12 PM

"I believe you should gravitate to people who are doing productive and positive things with their lives." - Nadia Comaneci

With whom are you spending your time these days? Not just in the physical world, but online as well. Are you surrounding yourself with people who have a positive attitude towards life? People who are respectful of others, while maintaining a strong sense of self? People who look for answers instead of problems? People who want to be successful, and want you to be successful too?

In the age of social media, it’s easier than ever to make connections. With a click of a button, you’re “friends” with a person you’ve never met who lives thousands of miles away. Online discussion groups allow for the exchange of ideas with people from many different backgrounds. The networking opportunities are amazing.

There’s also the chance that you’ll encounter negative people. Individuals who are unhappy with their lives, and think others should be unhappy too. “Trolls” who will post a comment just to get people upset. Bullies who will disparage others for their hopes and dreams.

Don’t engage the naysayers. Ignore them.

Don’t ignore the positive people. Embrace them.
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Topics: networking

Another Reason to Read a Book

Posted by Mark Fallon

Apr 24, 2013 6:11:44 AM

It was the normal Monday routine. An early flight out of Boston, with a connecting flight to my final destination. Sometimes the connection is in Atlanta, other times Minneapolis or maybe Detroit. This day, it was Atlanta.

When we landed, I asked the person next to me where she was flying to from Atlanta (almost everyone has a connecting flight). She replied, "Alabama." So I asked, “Rockets or cars?” “Rockets.”

What does this have to do with reading? Well, the night before, I was reading My Bookstore: Writers Celebrate Their Favorite Places to Browse, Read, and Shop. As implied, this is a collection of essays by writers about their favorite local bookstores. The chapter I’d just finished was by Rick Bragg, in which he described The Alabama Booksmith, in Birmingham, Alabama. To dispel the notion that people in Alabama aren’t literate, the bookstore owner pointed out that Alabama was where they built space rockets and Mercedes Benz automobiles.

From an earlier conversation, I had deduced that my seatmate was an engineer, or worked in engineering. Putting that piece of information together with my newly acquired knowledge about Alabama, I had a conversation starter. In a matter of seconds, we connected and were talking about Patriot missile systems, the defense industry and world politics.

That’s part of the joy of reading. By reading, we learn more about the world around us. And the more we learn about different places, the more we’re able to connect with other people. Even if it’s just a few minutes on a plane.
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Topics: networking

The Wonder of It All

Posted by Mark Fallon

Mar 25, 2013 1:47:00 AM

Last week, I was at the National Postal Forum in San Francisco. The NPF is a combination educational conference and trade show. I spent several hectic days presenting classes, attending classes and visiting vendors. I strengthened my network by spending time with people I knew from previous shows, and expanded my network by meeting people I should know. It was a wonderful week.

That meant I had to spend this weekend organizing the hundreds of business cards I had collected. Alphabetizing, de-duping and then entering the new contacts into my database. It’s a long process. But not a tedious effort.

The organizations that had representatives at the NPF ranged from multi-national banks to small loan companies, from famous universities to local community colleges, from household names to companies I had never heard of before. All with an interest in the subject of mail and shipping.

The names of the attendees reflected the varied population this country. The familiar surnames that I recognize from my travels and new ones I had never encountered. Variations of foreign names that had been Americanized, like some of my Irish ancestors did in the 1800s and 1900s.

As I scanned the cards, I thought of the many different faces in the audiences of my classes. People from all over the country, from big cities and small towns. People from all different races, social classes and backgrounds. An attendee had just turned 25, while another was talking about retiring next year at 65.

And every face had that same beautiful expression that comes from the joys of learning, sharing and networking.

The hours of working on my database passed unnoticed as I enjoyed the memory of the wonder that I’d experienced.
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Topics: networking

Talk to the Person Next to You

Posted by Mark Fallon

Dec 6, 2012 11:30:36 PM

A bad day that didn’t want to get better. Still thinking of bad news from home you received last night. Lousy run in the morning. Traffic on the way to your client. Vendors who didn’t show up for important testing. Internal politics looking for a scapegoat, and the external consultant looks like a good target. More bad news from home to end the day.

And you’re alone.

The local restaurant is packed, and there’s an hour wait for a table. Giving up, you head back to a dinner at the hotel bar. The best seat at the bar is taken. Book in hand, you seek out a corner near a pillar.

Hmm. You notice the person next you is wearing a Houston Marathon t-shirt. Taking a chance, you ask, did you run the marathon?

Fast forward 10 minutes. You are in the midst of a group of fellow veterans. But not just any veterans, but U.S. Air Force Pararescue veterans. Mostly Vietnam veterans. They are gathered to recognize William H. Pitsenbarger, the first of their brethren to receive the Medal of Honor. Several of them have received Bronze Stars, Silver Stars, and the Air Force Cross, the second-highest medal an airman can receive.

The guy with the Houston Marathon t-shirt? He’s Tom Newman, an Air Force Cross recipient and a sub 3-hour marathoner. You only know this because his friends tell you when his back is turned.

For the next 2 hours you get to hear stories and share beers with some amazing people. Vietnam rescue missions. Gemini spacecraft recovery missions. Apollo spacecraft recovery missions. Gulf War missions. A toast to fallen airmen. A toast to your father.

But only if you talk to the person next to you.
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Topics: networking

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