Little Lessons

Why This Time is Different

Posted by Mark Fallon

Aug 16, 2019 5:01:00 AM


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“Two roads diverged in a wood, and I
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.”
-Robert Frost

In January, my wife and I made what we hope is our “last move”. With an eye to the future, we bought a small house with everything on one level. We remodeled the bathroom with an emphasis on “universal design” – meaning easy access, a walk-in shower with bench, and grab bars.

The last few years, we have lost close relatives, including our parents. That meant cleaning out houses with decades of accumulated belongings.

It was exhausting. Not just physically, but emotionally. We don’t have children. When we died, did we want to add this burden to one of our nieces or nephews?

So, we decided to take a different path.

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Topics: inspiration, little lessons, parents, service, volunteer, empathy, walking

The Answers Within are Found Outside

Posted by Mark Fallon

Aug 9, 2019 5:01:00 AM

Bass River Sunrise
“Clearings. That’s what I needed” Slowly my brain righted itself into spaces unused for months.” – Helen MacDonald

Last year brought a lot of changes to my life. I was forced to stop running and had to face my fears when having major surgery. I was fortunate to have an amazing doctor and access to a teaching hospital. My surgery went as planned, and my doctor was impressed with my “quick recovery.”

Of course, what was “quick” for him was “painfully slow” for me. I had followed the pre-operation workout routine and completed the exercises assigned by the physical therapist afterwards. But I didn’t feel as strong as I thought I should. A walk to the end of the driveway and back felt like a 10k run. Not exhausting, but a workout.

The longer the recovery took, the older I felt.

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Topics: improvement, inspiration, fear, attitude, positive, little lessons, future, expectations, beauty, nature, perspective

A Change In Perspective

Posted by Mark Fallon

Aug 2, 2019 5:01:00 AM

bass river beach

"Events don't cause stress. What causes stress are the views you take of events." - Epictetus

The Bass River Beach in Yarmouth, Massachusetts has become one of my new favorite places. A short distance from my house, it’s a peaceful spot any time of year. The island of Martha’s Vineyard is only a few miles away, and acts as a buffer to the currents of the Atlantic Ocean. The silt from the river extends the beach and the shallow water. Even at high tide, the biggest waves are from the boats speeding by the shore.

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Topics: personal relationships, communicate, attitude, challenge, little lessons, problem solving, nature, perspective

Don’t Fear the Four-Letter Word

Posted by Mark Fallon

Jul 26, 2019 5:01:00 AM


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"Wherever you go, go with all your heart." – Confucius

Last week, a couple of my friends were having a tough time. One was facing a health scare, and the other’s mother passed away. We shared some long phone conversations. Each call ended with “I love you, brother.” And the response – “I love you too”.

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Topics: inspiration, love, learning, support, growth, happiness, joy, little lessons, kindness, father, parents, compassion

When Mistakes Happen

Posted by Mark Fallon

Jul 19, 2019 5:01:00 AM

Foggy Coast

"No one ever choked swallowing his or her pride." - Harvey Mackay

I was wrong this week. Twice. Okay, at least twice.

Because the two mistakes I’m discussing involve clients and prospects, I can’t go into too much detail. But in each case, I underestimated the challenges involved with a project. And both times, I had to admit I was wrong.

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Topics: improvement, values, honesty, listen, little lessons, trust, problem solving

The Value of Time

Posted by Mark Fallon

Jul 12, 2019 5:01:00 AM

 

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“A free man possesses time.” – Erling Kagge

Alarm clocks. Time clocks. Clocks on our wrists. Clocks on our phones.

Paper calendars. Electronic calendars. Internet-enabled calendars.

Factory whistles. School bells. Meeting notifications.

Constant reminders of the many ways time is passing by – by the minute, by the hour, by the day. We’ve developed many different ways to measure the passage of time. It’s just as important that we recognize the value of time.

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Topics: reflection, thoughtfulness, moment, little lessons, time, rest, social media

Helping Others Is Its Own Reward

Posted by Mark Fallon

Jul 5, 2019 5:01:00 AM

traffic jam

"Do your little bit of good where you are; it's those little bits of good put together that overwhelm the world." - Desmond Tutu

A few years ago, my wife Dolores and I were on our way to a Boston Red Sox game. We’re both fans, and our friends, Kerry and Diane, had invited us as their guests. Good friends, beautiful summer weather, and the Red Sox. Who could ask for more?

The only less-than-enjoyable part would be driving to the game during rush hour. In Boston. On a Friday night. But we made good time. Until there was a slight backup.

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Topics: love, little lessons, kindness, help, good, empathy, compassion

Experience Collectors Wanted

Posted by Mark Fallon

Jun 28, 2019 5:01:00 AM

After dinner
“So removed from daily life was the whole experience that when all was rotten to the core, a fine dinner could revive the spirits. If and when I had twenty dollars left to my name, I was going to spend it right here in an elegant hour that couldn’t be hocked.” – Katey Kontent in Rules of Civility by Amor Towles.

I love eating at restaurants. From 5-star steakhouses to local pubs to all-American diners. Perusing wine lists for the perfect pairing to the meal, gambling on a locally brewed beer, or stirring a thick milk shake with a long spoon. And most importantly, desserts – made-to-order souffle, crème brulee or lemon-meringue pie.

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Topics: personal relationships, love, family, memories, passion, marathon, travel, people, happiness, little lessons

Mind over Matter

Posted by Mark Fallon

Jun 21, 2019 5:01:00 AM

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“Give me a place to stand on and I can move the Earth.” – Archimedes

Once upon a time, I was young and strong.

Throughout high school, and part of college, I worked summers as a landscaper. My boss loved to give me the hardest jobs, because he knew I wanted to be challenged. Dig a hole 6 feet by six feet by six feet – with only a shovel and pickax. Move truckloads of wood mulch with a wheelbarrow. Rip out a tree stump without any power tools.

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Topics: strength, improvement, networking, hard work, reading list, Reading and Books, growth, groups, challenge, little lessons

Dining Alone

Posted by Mark Fallon

Jun 14, 2019 4:38:43 AM

burger dinner
"All man's miseries derive from not being able to sit quietly in a room alone." – Blaise Pascal

Because of my job as a consultant, I spend a significant amount of time away from home. Business travel isn’t glamorous, it isn’t miserable, it’s just part of my job. I’ve been a landscaper, a trash collector, a waiter and a soldier. Put into the proper perspective, life on the road isn’t that bad.

I’m fortunate and have wonderful clients. We’ve shared dinners that are more like a gathering of friends than a corporate event. Exchanging stories, including some “tall tales”, that bring smiles and laughter to the table. We create memories, not close business deals.

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Topics: reflection, Reading and Books, memories, travel, story, people, little lessons, emotions